Millstone’s answer to the NJ 2020 Sex Ed standards was to provide a take-home packet to parents for the more controversial topics. This action to provide parents with a choice, but was met with a clown show of activists showing up at the BOE meeting flicking their middle finger and insulting the parents. The excuses to keep these standards to be taught by teachers (who by the way do not want to do this) were insulting and bizarre.
If you don’t let the teachers (experts) teach about sex acts before 12, then your kids will get it from porn
Gender is a spectrum and this is “SCIENCE”
Children will be harmed if you don’t talk about Gender Identity
It’s not safe for parents to talk to kids about sex because they are the ones molesting the kids
7 year olds need to learn about anal sex in school so they know they are being molested by their parents
The purpose of public education is NOT to teach kids what their parents want to be taught, it is to teach them what society needs them to know
The client of the public school is not the PARENT but the PUBLIC
A small group of parents are pushing a political agenda when they want more control over what is taught in school
The kids need to go to LGBT+ communities so they can feel safe
Having a packet go home to parents is like a “don’t say gay bill”
You are a part of a national campaign of hate when you advocate for your kids
You are contributing to the suicide rate because you are protecting your kids
A middle school teacher is happy that she can stand up in front of students and talk about trans, lesbian, gay, bisexual, asexual, aromatic … because your kids are queer whether families like it or not.
Don’t believe it? Watch this 6 minute video from February:
These crackpots are showing up at your BOE meeting to discuss your child’s education and outnumbering the parents in the district. Its time for you to get involved.
Written by a parent from Millstone
Hello Millstone! It feels like forever since I wrote something. Well, on Monday, March 20th, 2023 I was able to attend the Millstone Township Board Of Education Meeting. There were rumors of a large turnout. Apparently at the last meeting a group of people from out of town showed up in protest of Millstone's decision to make some elements of the sex ed/health at home learning. Some heckling ensued. So, if you haven't guessed this is a topic there is much to say about. I'll do my best at condensing what I feel is important and accurately describing the events. These essays, op-eds, whatever you call them aren't exactly a photograph. They're more like a cartoon of real events. Warning, there is some coarse/graphic language. Don't read this one as a bedtime story.
I got to the Millstone Middle School Library a little early. I met a few familiar faces, or should I say I met a few faces that found mine familiar? Anyway, at that time there was hardly anyone there. It almost looked as if this was just going to be a typical meeting. So at 6pm, the stated start time, the Pledge of Allegiance was recited. Immediately after the BOE called a private executive session. Those who were there at that time, including myself, were instructed to leave and wait in the school lobby/vestibule until approximately 6:30. No biggie. At first I spent time making niceties and chit chat with various attendees. More and more people started to arrive. It went from looking like a dud to looking like quite a few people might show up. But still, it was obvious that the bulk of the arrivals during that time were our fellow townsfolk. Then they arrived...
Imagine, if you will, a large bus. Imagine that on this bus are the most cartoonish examples of radical leftists. There are definitely a few images of characters that would arrive. Let me tell you whatever you're thinking is probably real close to the mark. As the townsfolk were talking among each other, some pleasantly, some not so pleasantly, in came this group of people. Now, let me be clear, the following description is not made to be hurtful, just accurate. This group walked in looking like the LGBTQAIP+ version of the Scooby Doo and Mystery Incorporated. Bearded man buns with rose colored glasses, rainbow combat booted, rainbow face masked, face and neck tattooed, toxic green haired, ear gauged, nose ringed, lip pierced, zombies began stumbling through the door, clutching fistfulls of Trans Youth ribbons, extending them forward toward any person who still had life left in their eyes eeking out “Ribbon for Trans Youth?”
Right as the lobby was getting crowded the executive session ended and everyone shuffled back into the library. It took more than a couple minutes to get everyone situated and bring chairs enough to seat everyone. A few, myself included, stood in the back. I prefer to get a view of the whole room if possible. Several of the LGBT Squad also went to the back, and stood holding a trans flag. Another held signs with various sayings I didn't get to see because of where I was situated. Millstone's Superintendent, Dr. Huss, opened the public portion by reading a prepared statement. The statement addressed the crowd, the turnout, and the reason for it. Dr. Huss wanted to make it clear that this who subject of sensitive subjects being taught in health/sex ed class have been blown out of proportion. Basically what has happened is portions of that curriculum that include many sensitive subjects have been shifted to at home learning. So let's be clear, there are a few sensitive subjects included, other than the one that has everyone riled up. Issues such as rape, sexual violence, sex trafficking, sexual intercourse (including oral and anal), use of abortion as a birth control option, and masturbation are included along with teaching kids about trans identities. I would argue these issues are important to talk about with your kids. As a parent it should be up to you to decide when your children are ready to hear about those issues and under what context. But as a brief aside, I can't think of anything more awkward and unnecessary than a teacher or parent teaching a child how to do anal sex. Why? What's the supposed purpose of teaching a kid that? Seriously. I can't think of any reason and I don't think any sane person could. “Now here kids, you take this, and you put it right up there, so now, nine months later, you won't have to suck that baby's brain out of the womb, although let's not forget, sucking a baby's brain from the womb is good and virtuous! Isn't that great?”
So let's move on, so what happened? Well, after Dr. Huss made his statement a few routine BOE issues were discussed. Millstone schools are losing some grants and such, so you know what that means... TAX HIKE! It's not that bad though. They were talking about a 2.7% increase. If your property is assessed at $500,000 that would total about a $90 increase for the year. So, while I'm always sad to hear about the taxes going up, it is what it is. But that leads to a point I'll bring back up later. There are also some renovations at the schools in the works and unfortunately, that's not going to be cheap. I think they said $6,000 just in new clocks. Something crazy like a hundreds-of-thousands figure to remove old mulch and replace it with new mulch. Ouch. Plus 3 new buses, 2 new pickups with plows, 1 equipment trailer, new sinks, new siding, new fire alarm panels, new septic controls... It's going to add up significantly. So, finally the public comment portion opened.
Side note: There was an APP article about the meeting before this one. The way it was portrayed you would think this town stood 180 degrees opposite of what I saw. The APP article once again (the first time being when the town shut down the apartment complex) portrayed the average passionate folks in this town as a bumbling minority who got their way with torches and pitchforks despite being a minority opinion. So let me tell you what I saw. I saw a few familiar town Moms get up and passionately attest to the love of their children. I saw mothers insist they know their children best. I saw fathers who want what is best for their kids. I saw students who made their way through our schools concentrating on reading, writing, and arithmetic plead we concentrate on mental health and anti-bullying. And all but maybe one or two who actually live here all unanimously agreed that the parents deserve a say in their kids education and context on these subjects. Now what was said on the other side? Person after person got up to the mic and stated “Hi, I'm from Little Silver...” or “I'm from Red Bank...” or “I'm from Fairhaven”, “Jackson,” “Freehold,” “Monroe,” and came up with various ways of saying the parents are too dumb to teach these subjects, the parents shouldn't be burdened with the responsibility, the parents aren't trained to teach this, and more than once I heard it insinuated that you, as parents, should not get to teach these subjects to your kids because you might be an abuser, molester, or rapist.
What can I say about hearing this? It didn't make me feel good, that's for sure. What a strange world where people from out of town who aren't paying the upkeep of our kids schools, who don't know our community, us, or our kids, can come to our Board Of Education meetings, tell us that we as parents have no right to teach our kids about these subjects if and when we see fit, and not only that, but we're dumb and probably rapists. Let's look at this a bit more. You know what a teacher needs to do to teach these sensitive subjects? A six hour training course. I don't know about anyone else but the sex ed classes used to be given by the gym/phys ed. teachers. I don't mean to undermine the importance of our teachers, but they act like a Harvard educated doctor was going to slide down off a cloud on the LGBTQ+ rainbow to teach. No, your kids gym teacher is going to watch a video and parrot the talking points back at your kids. To insinuate parents are incapable is laughable. To insinuate, as one woman did complaining about the burden, that you can't be bothered to talk about these issues with your kids is despicable.
Let's face it, there's plenty of good reasons a parent may want to take their time explaining things like abortion, rape, sex and sex trafficking to a young adult. The same goes for trans identities. The thing is the other side is trying to stop exactly that. They don't want you to teach your kids about these things BECAUSE of how you might frame them. They want to teach your kids abortion 100% of the time is 100% good. They can't risk you dare teaching your kids that murdering babies is inherently evil. They want to teach your kids not only about LGBTQ+ identities, but that there is something inherently virtuous in those identities, and if you don't agree you're a hateful bigot in need to re-education. So, yes, this whole thing is about stopping an aggressive agenda from the left. As much as I may disagree with your opinion, it's your right to teach your kids there's nothing wrong with abortions on demand. I think that's vile, but I can't stop you. But on the flip side how dare you tell parents they can't teach their children about these issues as they see fit. It's all about your agenda. You think “get them young, push the parents out so we can start breaking down their resistance at the least, and at the best brainwash them into our side!” So the parents decided they want to teach their kids about these subjects, so now the power is in the hands of the parents to frame it in whatever context is best for their kids. I don't see why that's a problem. It seems to me the only reason you'd want to take that away from the parents is to sow seeds of derision in a child's head. “Mommy and Daddy said X, but almighty teacher said Y, so my parents must be stupid jerk offs.”
Anyway, this is getting long, so I'm gonna end this. In summary things are just the same. These sensitive subjects are delegated to at home learning. A victory for the parents and children who live here. Those of you who are mad about this decision, I assure you, no one can stop you from indoctrinating your kids into whatever new-age idea that flows from the multi colored latrine. I wish you wouldn't, but I can't stop you. It's time for you to Mother your own children and stop trying to Mother everyone else's.
God bless this great town and country,
Chuck Boris
This is an excellent article - facts and reality. I like Millstone’s approach to the sex Ed topics; might be something to consider if we (my town) must someday be forced too.
Balancing legal responsibilities and doing what is right has become almost impossible for school boards who care and do more than rubber-stamp resolutions.
As a 12 or 13 year old in the early 70s I remember vaguely a sex education class that the most explicit conversation was about what a condom is for but there were no illustrations or demonstrations as there seem to be in some of the school books today. Believe it or not I had no knowledge of condoms or female pads (I don't know if Tampons were even in use yet) I am the 7th of 9 children with three older sisters and I had never seen a feminine pad or tampon. We used to be a somewhat civil and decent people but these days it seems anything goes and it is disturbing to say the least.