The battle for our children continues on Tuesday August 15th 9am at the Monmouth county courthouse where the attorney general attempts to force our schools to lie to parents about gender identity.
Parents have always advocated for their children at school boards’ meetings but it really picked up in 2020 when Governor Murphy shut down our schools, then forcibly masked our kids for TWO YEARS with his mandates. This created the largest youth mental health crisis in the history of New Jersey. We can no longer allow him to use the New Jersey Department of Education to screw up our kids.
Since Murphy has been in office, he has appointed his swamp creatures to do his bidding at the NJ Department of Education. We are now stuck with policies that allow biological boys (who want to be girls) in girls’ locker rooms while they are changing, biological boys in girls sports, the removal of gender language (“boys and girls” and “men and women”) from the curriculum, inappropriate changes to the sex education curriculum, and policies that force teachers and school staff to actively hide a child’s gender identity from their parents.
Marlboro, Middletown, Manalapan and Hanover did the right thing and made policies protecting children by informing parents of a change in the child’s gender identity at school. Murphy and the Attorney General think that LGBT+ students have the right to have schools lie for them to their parents, even if they didn’t ask them to. AG Platkin says:
Schools now have policies that will change the child’s new gender identity upon request in the school database. In Ocean Township schools used the database to inform teachers which parents they need to lie to about gender identity.
Middletown BOE member, Jacqueline Tobacco, revealed that the teachers were actually whiting out student’s names from documents sent home to parents to keep up with the lie.
This is all so insane that we ignore the logistical difficulties and the safety implications of hiding a child’s new name from parents. How do you release test scores and school work to parents without revealing the new name? Do they have a special redaction team at the school scouring all materials sent home? If a child is missing from the fire drill or lockdown, what name will they use with police and how can they ensure that the parents never find out? How do we ensure that substitute teachers know which parents to lie to?
What else will the schools be told to keep a secret from parents?
We need a good showing at the Monmouth county courthouse on Tuesday August 15th at 9 am. Just like the masks, the only way this gets resolved is in the court of public opinion.
It’s simply unfathomable that a sitting state’s attorney general wants to criminalize any school official who tells the truth to a parent about something happening to their minor child at school. New Jersey is the battleground for the country in this abomination.
The attorney general is assuming 2 things about all parents. One is that parents will harm their children if they are told that a child of theirs has decided to live by a new identity. He’s basically saying that parents are “presumed” to commit crimes against their own children if they find out the truth about their child.
This stance takes the notion of “innocent until proven guilty” and simply demolishes it completely. It’s like that Tom Cruise movie where the actor arrests people for “pre-crimes”, or crimes the state “thinks” a person will commit in the future.
Quite simply, this flies in the face of our entire judicial system. It’s guilty before proven innocent and with no evidence of guilt, just the possibility that a crime “might” occur without any evidence of concluding this.
Since when does the government actively condone lying and criminalize telling the truth? We know the government lies to its citizens. But now the government is actually demanding its employees lie to its citizens, and not just any citizens, parents of children.
Talk about not trusting the government! Here they actually telling government workers not to be trusted because they are required to lie or face jail time.
The other supposition made by the government here is that between the parent and the state, the state is the party primarily responsible for the well-being of a child. Parents lose their primary right to make decisions for their child before they turn 18. Parents still have the responsibility and requirement to house and feed a child. But any decisions about the child now belong to the state.
And not only does the state get to make child rearing decisions now, they are obliged to keep these decisions from the parents. Parents no longer can know what’s going on with their children at school. That’s no longer a parent’s right.
This would be a fundamental change to our society. It’s more akin to communist China. China may dictate the child’s future, but at least in China they don’t keep their decisions hidden from the parents.
The state is uprooting our society and legal system under the guise of child safety. If they do not take these drastic measures, children will be harmed or be killed. But do they have any evidence that this is actually happening outside and above of the normal rates of child abuse st the hands of a parent? Where exactly are they getting the data to draw this conclusion?
We also already have a system in place to protect children from abusers. Granted that system only works “after” abuse has begun. But it’s uncommon for a first time abuser to start at murdering their own child.
Our system has always demanded evidence in the past before taking away parental rights. Outside of moving ALL children to a government run orphanage systems where no parents are allowed to even house any child, the state cannot ever possibly prevent ALL child abuse at the hands of parents. So what specifically is different that requires ultra protective measures with kids who come out at school?
The fact is the notion that you are going to keep the truth away from parents by lying to them will actually accomplish keeping the secret is just nonsense. Secrets have a way of coming forward. And this secret is way too public to keep from a parent even if the state wants it to be kept secret.
If Thomas at home becomes Beth at school, how do you suppose Beth will get addressed by a friend she brings home from school? You think the friend is never going to slip up and call her Beth instead of Thomas? And by expecting friends to keep this secret you are also demanding third party children also keep secrets and lie to adults, including their own parents!
The state is creating a culture of lies and secrets for children to adhere to within this system. What can be more harmful to a child’s well being if they are being asked to keep a secret through lying to their own parents even as they themselves are not part of a gender change. In order to keep the secret, ALL CHILDREN WITH A SCHOOL MUST ALSO KEEP THE SAME SECRET BY LYING TO ADULTS.
This is why practically speaking, secrets and lies don’t even work. Not only must teachers keep this secret from the child affected, every student in Beth’s school must also keep Beth’s secret from their own parents who otherwise might mention it to Beth’s parents that Thomas is really Beth at school.
The notion that this coverup can be maintained by asking a school full of children to lie to everyone they come in contact with is just laughable. The fact that the attorney general thinks this is a proactive solution to keep children safe is simply absurd. How did this attorney ever finish law school if they are just that stupid.
But unfortunately, this is where we are today. We have politicians who want to “virtue signal” that they are “protecting children” when in reality they are doing the opposite. Their protection scheme cannot possibly work. And in the process teaches children to lie and keep secrets from the most important adults in their lives. This will destroy children and families!
I think a movement of "see something ,say something" needs to be started. Students, parents, reasonable human teachers who care about students (which I think is most of them), GO AROUND THE RULES. We simply tell the parent of a child if we see this struggle occurring. It's not "anti-LGBTQ". It's not discrimination. It's love. If you see a friend struggling, you let their parent know. If you need to do it anonymously, you do it anonymously. Just do it.
All the kids will be aware of any child who changes their pronoun, gender etc. So will their teachers, and other parents. Let those parents know, with compassion and dignity.